What is Family … really?!

I am often left puzzled as to what it means to have a family…

“Who are your family?” “Are they friends?” “Relatives?” Or “Are they the people we live with?” These are some of the things that I often ask myself when I am facing a difficult situation. Family, I was always told, are the only people you can truly count on. They are the ones that will stick by you when no-one else will. They are the ones who will always stand by your side, even if you are wrong!

I have found that family are the most important people in your life, but they do not, as seen in many cases in television and within novels, stop at just being the people who you live with. They are often people who you come to know and love extensively.

Unfortunately, I have found that family is not always on your side, they are not always the ones that keep you smiling when you’re sad, or help protect you and the people around you. Sometimes, the people who cause you pain and cause you heartache are the people who you once called family.

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I’m older, not elder

I've become my parents

fashion over the years

I gave a talk this week to a senior’s society. They were very nice people. Until someone pointed out that I’m only five years away from qualifying to join.


I’m not ready to be a senior citizen; my parents are senior citizens.

Statistically speaking, it’s likely that I’ve already lived over half of my life. There was a time when, if I wanted something bad enough, I could make it happen. There were no limits to the possibilities. I had the time, energy, optimism and a whole lifetime ahead of me to work on it. Mostly, though, I was too stupid to know my limitations. Dream it and I could make it happen.

It is strange now to know there are some things that, no matter how much I want to, I will never do before I die. It’s too late to become a fireman or an astronaut. I’ll…

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What to do…

Sometimes I just sit down thinking to myself. Thinking about all the things I have done and all of the things that I could still potentially do. I also sit and think about how the people I know and are close to go through many different phases. Sometimes it is nice to see them evolve and branch out in life. Other times it is painful and it hurts. Whether it is losing a best friend, or welcoming someone new!

There comes a time, unexpectedly in most cases, when you find that you yourself are going through phases, and yes! most of these not how you expected them to be. Whether you like it or not, you have to go through them. You have to carry on with your life and making mistakes and being told you’re wrong, you also have to enjoy and celebrate all the achievements that you encounter. It’s not wrong to be selfish and to be needy, but it is wrong to NOT let things happen.

One of my old lecturers once said something to me which I have never forgotten and think about every day, he said; “Always enjoy today,  tomorrow has still to come.” What this means, I cannot tell you. I can tell you however what I think it means. I think that it means, whatever happens today is already in the past. It has happened, but tomorrow is what ever you want it to be. If you want it to carry on from today, that fine, if you want it to be a brand new day, then that’s also fine. But for me, I wake up every day thinking about as many positive things that I can, I make the most of my day and try to put a positive spin on what happens during this day. I like to see people smile in times of pain and to cry tears of joy and laughter. It makes me happy knowing that you’re happy.

So, remember, what ever happens to people around you and close to you, of course comfort them and help them but don’t sacrifice your happiness or your morals for them, because ultimately it is their path, it is what they have to do and what they have to go through. At the end of the day, you are still you and you will still be their no matter what.